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In recent times, there has been a tremendous rise in spousal killing and abuse. Several reports of wife’s stabbing husbands, and vice versa is become a regular news on a daily basis as we open to our social media. Only a few days ago i saw on social media a wife pouring hot water on her husband because of another woman. Sometimes in 2017 a young lawyer stabbed her husband and killed him in cold blood. You think she should know better becuase she was a lawyer, but she was gullible because of emotions and over reaction. She was latter sent to jail.
In 2018, Marian Sanda stabbed his husband several times until he died. She has been sentenced to death.
These are people in their prime, both husband and wife and none deserve to die as at when they were take prematurely or sentence to jail to waste away. But lack of knowledge application which is wisdom pushed them into the situation they found themselves
Marriage is not a do or die affair. If its not working try to make it work but if it’s not still working quit with your life intact. You are better alive without marriage than to die in a disastrous one.
Get help right on time. Speak to a counsellor who can give you direction and help you plan your life. Our season counsellors will listen to you and your spouse and help you proffer solution to that rocky relationship guiding you both back into love.
John (not real name) heard the Reconciler on radio, he thought to himself that was the help I needed. Right about the time, his marriage which was barely six month was already drowning. So he said this is his last chance to save his marriage.
Indeed, it was worth the stress to go looking for counsellor to speak with his wife Ifeoma (not real name) who had also made up her mind to quit the marriage.
As we sat down in counselling, it brought the two of them back to the basics of their love making them realized that they had both been selfish and wanted different things all together.
At the end of the first session, it was a renewed love for the couples. Of course more sessions and therapy were held and they have a greater bond now. Its being two years and they are waxing stronger.
You do not need to keep quiet when things are not working. Contact us on www.themendinghomes.com.ng for sessions and therapy in counselling.
If you don’t know you must know that marriage is not meant to be endured, but enjoyed. There are couples out there having the best of there relationships. You too can enjoy both worlds and have the best marriage ever. You don’t have to give up or cave in. You must work at it for it to work for you.
Understanding your spouse is key. Your feelings matter but your spouse feelings count. If we can think of what is best for our spouse’s, we are closer to having a blissful marriage.
Here is how it works. If i think about my husband, and my husband think about what is best for me, we have indirectly solve so many problems the ‘self’ syndrome would have created. Instead of thinking about I, me, and myself, my husband is doing it for me while I do his own thinking for him.
Concession is the word. We must concede and compromise a little here and a little there to accommodate our spouses.
Don’t loose it but get it together. Don’t fail in that assignment and don’t just keep looking at your relationship going down the drain, but work for it to make it work for you.
In essence here is what I am telling you. Before you die in that marriage, get help so you can make it work. And if the help is not working it out, your life is precious. In the word of late Nester Marley, ‘he who fight and run away lives to fight another day.
Fight for that marriage like your life depends on it but run for your life when the need arise.
I know a couple names withheld. The wife earns more than the husband because she has her own business but the man was always feeling inferior and defensive. In the midst of quarrels, the man will tell the wife, i will kill you and I will make sure I kill you and nothing will happen. He always beat up this woman and attack her where she could easily pass out.
When the situation could not be handled with counselling and series of therapy, separation was advised. Now both are living separately and the woman now has a life outside the hostility of her marriage